Not long ago someone told me they could have any Filipina they wanted. That is a man that doesn’t understand Filipina at all. Well, I don’t claim to understand any woman but I can assure you that he nor any other man can have any Filipina they want. That is a really silly thing to think much less to write it down. I think he really believes it to be true. I don’t remember who said it and it doesn’t matter.
All Filipina Are Looking For Money?
While many Filipina actively seek out a white male for a partner many others don’t want anything to do with us. I know plenty of Filipina that prefer Filipinos and that some that flat dislike all white men and especially an American. Some of the Americans have not left a good impression. Some Filipinos think we are all after children. That makes me sad when I run into that. Sometimes it makes me angry.
On my YouTube channel, I get a lot of that. If I take a video while walking around the Philippines and 
there are children in there, I’m shocked at some of the comments on YouTube. I don’t get that attitude from those that live in the Philippines. It is usually young males that live in the USA or another country and probably have never been in the Philippines. This happens a lot, usually once a week or more frequently. It is disturbing and I hope that it is not reflective of the way Filipinos in the USA think of us. From what I’ve seen on YouTube, I think it might be.
Some Filipino women just prefer someone from their culture, that understands their ways. Other Filipina prefer men from a different culture. Sometimes it really is only about that. Some of the women in the Philippines want more freedom than they are likely to get with a pinoy (male Filipino). Of course, not all pinoy are like that but many are.
I’m sure Jessie wanted more freedom, she is not real fond of pinoy. She also needed to improve her living conditions. Like many mothers, she was not eating because she wanted to feed her kids first. She had it better than many but she had some lean times too. She didn’t crave things, that’s not what she was after. She does like her chocolate and clothes that I buy her but usually she tells me not to buy for her. Sometimes I listen and sometimes I insist she gets herself something. She really likes clothes from Playboy. Most Filipina love to get name brand clothes from the USA.
In the four years I had been with her, I could never get her into a swimsuit until I bought her that hot one from Playboy. That she would wear even though it doesn’t say Playboy on it. She wore it first when we were far from home. I don’t know if she’d wear it now in her hometown but her family call her hot mama when they see the pictures of her in it.
Some women in the Philippines, don’t care one bit about your money. They want to feel loved. You might find that hard to believe but it is completely true. It is rare to find one that does not care about money or things. Oh I’m sure they want things, who doesn’t like nice things. What they search for is someone to make them feel loved.
Oh yea, there are plenty of Filipina that want only money and hope they can get it from you without ever settings eyes upon you. There are a lot of ladies that make a living online. If they can get one guy to send them $100 each month that is about what they would earn working in a store. They have to do that eight to ten hours a day for seven days a week. Their online love life is a job for them and they are sometimes very good at it.
Filipina Are Unique
I’ve said it many times, you need to be very careful of the ladies online. Many of the girls online are 
hoping a guy will really come and love them. Most of the guys never come. Some of the guys see the girl only once and disappear after one night.
The women usually have more than one man they are talking too. Even the serious ones usually have more because they know it is so unlikely the man will ever come for them. It is usually a matter of which guys shows up first.
Is it always about the money? No, it is not always about the money. I think it is rare that it is only about the money. Women find it hard to think in those terms only. I’ve seen women walk right past a man with money and choose the one that can’t help her financially at all. Sometimes they like the bad boy type. Sometimes it makes no sense at all, especially to a man. Women just think different than we men do. At the most fundamental levels we just don’t understand each other. While it is common for a woman to seek stability not all are even after that.
The idea that a man could have any Filipina they wanted is beyond my comprehension. Of course its not true but how could anyone believe that? I can understand getting the “big head” because of Filipina. Wow, I’ve had a lot of pretty ladies chase me. Most of them where living in a fantasy, some of them were just full of “it.”
One that was interested in me was very cute. She was the first I got to know. She was suppose to be 26 and untouched. Really, she was well off, married and had at least one child. She was bored and her husband traveled a lot. She lacked freedom and she wanted some excitement. She wanted to know she could still interest a man. Oh boy, could she interest men. She was very attractive. She also could care less who she hurt. She might have been evil, she was at the very least extremely selfish and not someone I would ever want regardless of how she looked. She fooled me for months. Money was not her motivation at all, it was her ego.
I’ve met so many women in the Philippines and like any place else they are unique. I see most people as doing the best they can. Most just trying to get through life being good to other people, trying to be a nice person. Some are sweet, some are feisty, some are pretty to look at and nice to hold. Others, well, they are not so nice to look at and some are just mean. I don’t find Filipina to be much different at their core than American women. But once they love you, they usually love to take care of you. Jessie won’t let me do much of anything. She’ll stop me and do it for me.
They may not be as wise to the ways of the world. Sometimes, younger Filipina can be rather naive as they just don’t have much experience with the world. They are often very shielded as children but they usually also feel very loved and have a close family that serves as their bedrock. They often have extreme loyalty to their family. Something I wish my family had. It is nice to see. In most cases, her man will never be more important to her than her family. Many women just cannot understand how I could leave my homeland where my family is.
Proceed with caution, it is easier for me to find a good woman here. It is much easier. They come in all different kinds and each one should be treated well. Just be careful on your journey for your island dream girl. They are here and they are very loving if you capture the heart. The loving nature of a Filipina will provide you with a love you’re not likely to have found before.
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I think some guys might get the wrong idea about the Filipinas because of the shy smiles western men get from them. In western countries a smile from a girl tends to mean she is interested but in the Philippines it seems it is just a slight embarrassment at being caught looking at you because you are from a different country. That does not mean that they are not the most beautiful people I have ever come across and I have the good luck to be considered to be part of a Filipino family. I am going over in October to be part of the official party at a Filipino wedding and was best man at another one a couple of years ago. I have a Filipina girlfriend and she is not interested in money as much as having someone to love her and make her feel safe but I have met some who are just after money ( and who can blame them ) and will take anybody who will take them out of poverty. When you get a good one she is fantastic and as you say will do everything for you.
I've run into many Filipina that won't even look at me.
I usually know who will not just by looking at them. A lot of them are interested when they give you that smile. There can be many different reasons though.
I met one of Jessie's friends this past weekend. She could care less about money. She just wants to feel loved.
I am sure some men think they can get any Filipina they want because they think they have something which gives them power … money. But, as you say, not all Filipinas rate that as the highest priority.
We have to be careful not to equate poverty with desperation and not assume that money can buy a person’s soul. Anyway, a woman bought by money is not worthy …. the worthy one is the one ‘bought’ by love.
If a guy starts talking about money, you’ll usually see the Filipina disappear. Most won’t like that at all. They know you have it, best to just stay off that topic. Even if that is what they are looking for they don’t like a guy bringing it up.
I doubt there is any man that could get any filipina he wanted, but…getting a nice filipina is about the easiest thing in the world to do. That does mean that you can get all filipinas.
The guys that get scammed just simply used the wrong head. I can see a filipina scammer coming from 7000 miles away and so can all of my friends who are married to filipinas.
As far as filipinas being much like American women in their core…NO WAY! The only real similar thing is they are women and we will NEVER completely understand them.
A filipina, born and raised in the filipines, is much different than the average American woman. They are kinder, more loving, more understanding, more supportive, and RARELY will you hear “not tonight, I have a headache.” The average filipina is so much MORE about taking care of others first than having her needs taken care of.
American women, at least when it comes to their husbands or boyfriends, first care about what the man can do for them, not what they can do for the man. In the filipines it is the exact opposite. Unfortunately too many men take advantage of this personality trait.
I have had the chance in my four years in the filipines to be with some incredibly beautiful women, women that would make jaws break if they were in America. NEVER ONCE have any of these women asked me for money or tried to get money from me. EVER. In fact, I make it a habit to not play the typical “I am American, I have money, so you should take notice” routine I see so often when I am in the filipines.
Are there women in the filipines that are just after money? Yep, but they are so easy to spot. It is simple, if they ask for money early on they are probably not really interested in YOU…they want your money.
My fiance is very pretty, she is a FANTASTIC women and has NEVER once asked for a peso. Not once. Not because she thinks I will say no, but because she knows it is not proper to do that. She could EASILY find a man with MUCH more money than me, but she loves me. All my friends have found the same type of women…and it was EASY for them.
My friends and I chuckle when we hear an American talking about having a hard time finding a good filipina!!! LMAO. What world are they in? To find a good filipina ALL it takes is the following:
1. Respect her culture
2. Treat her well (and no, that does not mean money and gifts all the time)
3. Be funny and interesting.
It really is that simple. And if they start asking for money, GET RID OF THEM!
Let’s face it, all people like nice things. Filipinas like nice things, just like anyone else. But if having nice things is the MAIN reason they are with you, then you probably have a relationship based more on American standards.
It is really not much different than a man wanting to just be with a woman because of sex. If that is what the woman thinks and feels should probably not be with the man.
If a filipina wants to be with you because of money…you should probably get rid of her. There are far too many good, loving, sweet, caring, and supportive filipinas to put up with the ones that want you for the wrong reasons.
Use your BIG head, not the small one and you’ll have no problems finding a great filipina.
You only doubt it? It is preposterous for a many to think he can have any Filipina he wants. It requires a great deal of ignorance to the degree that one would have to work at obtaining that level of ignorance or be mentally ill. I vote for mentally ill.
Men that get scammed are usually lonely. It isn’t what you suggest. Men thinking that way go to AC and just pay for it up front. It is a lonely man that is the easiest target as they don’t make good choices in many cases.
I found my future wife through a dating club,& she has never been after my money, but of course I helped her , out of my true love & gratitude for her precious love for me…but while in the club there was plenty of women who did want money & played their games, but I did not worry about that , because there was many desiring a relationship with me & were the cream of the crop….as the saying goes life is what we make it, plus in order to get the best for yourself, you have to first become the best..a Filipino woman was the best choice & woman ive ever had in my lifetime.
yeah, they are the game players. I need money for school, I need money for my baby and my all time favorite was “I need to buy oxygen for my sick mother.” Now if I thought that was true, I would have given her the $20.
Some start right away with it and those are the easy ones to spot. It is the girls that wait three months that are the ones making the cash and sometimes over 100,000 php a month. Often 60 or 70K a month. Most are obvious though and manage a few hundred a month.
Yes there are some great women that can be found on dating sites. Sifting through all the BS though, its a major pain.
i think this is the third time you have brought this subject up?……….well pretty much the same thing. i commented on this before and maybe i made it seem like this filipinas are gold diggers. im not saying that all theyre after is your money but lets face it, you cant provide a good life for them without money. my question for you guys is why are this girls in a dating club…….never heard of it im assuming its like a mail order bride thing or trolling for foreigner in the internet? is there lack of males in the philippines that they have look for foreigners? or maybe its that a foreigner can provide something that a filipino for the most part cant? will a filipino male not be able to love her or keep her safe just as much as a foreigner?. if this girls could put a roof over their heads and put food on the table with just love then i dont think that you will see so many filipinas looking for foreigners for a partner. no one can blame this girls , im sure if we were in the same situaltion we would do the same and if i was a older gentleman looking at my golden years alone then most likely i would do the same as you guys did.
I don’t know that if I brought it up before or not, I’m glad your such a loyal reader that you keep up with it. I’m sure I will bring it up again. I don’t think I’ve approached it in this way before.
Sorry you don’t understand the article, looks like I need to write it about it again. I thought I explained why some Filipina look for a foreigner. There are several reasons.
Why do you feel the need to be so condescending?
One side that I think has not really been covered here is the Filipino’s fascination with the west. They are really interested in our culture as well and see it as a glamorous life through a Hollywood lens. It is really about the grass is greener on the other side complex that we all have. Most of what is considered beautiful over there is the lighter skin and this is kind of what is opposite here in the states. So that can play a part as well in a Filipinas decision of who she is attracted to. It seems to me as a good amount of Filipino look up to American culture and dating or marrying one is a status symbol. Now do all look for that?, no of course not. But I find it to be a generalization that most have and feel and can be an unconscious factor in whom they look for in a mate.
All in all I think that most Filipinas are no different than any other woman in the world. All they want is someone to love them, trust them and take care of them. You hear more about the “gold diggers” because it’s a bad thing and people tend to remember the bad things more. I know for a fact that my wife didn’t marry me for my money, because I hardly had any at all. Most Filipinas are raised to respect people, especially their elders. The respect is one of the attractions that make them a bit unique. I have been married to my Filipina wife for over 32 years now, with no end in sight. She is a bit Americanized, but she still respects me as her husband and I respect her too. The boat rocks in both directions so compromising to keep it level is essential. Oh and I agree that anyone that thinks they can have ANY Filipina they want is probably mentally ill or has a way too high of an ego.
All romance between a man and a woman has an economic component. It may not seem important in the beginning of a relationship sometimes, but it is always there and will show its dynamics at some point. Men and women are just like all animals in this world: they need to worry about the basics of living. Even women in love with a guy come face to face with economic realities: they begin to realize they can’t wear decent cloths or eat good food, or enjoy decent personal transportation, or live in decent surroundings, or get away for the weekend, or educate their children, or watch TV or buy CDs or Ipods or smart-phones, etc. etc.. Women from advanced economic countries who even have their own jobs asses what the men in their lives can do or can’t do to make a good nest for the them or the family. Money is an essential part of the basics of living. It is very foolish to down-play its importance in any relationship. So there is no shame for a woman to be aware of economics.
Most of the time those guys who demean women for wanting to have things are guys who have this ignorant idea that women should be driven buy pure and true love for them. While they expect the woman to show unadulterated sentiments of love, they themselves are just concerned about using them as a love-doll. Women are humans just as men are and have the same needs and rights to fulfill those needs. Caucasian women are not different in being concerned about the material necessities of life than women any place else in the world. Rusty, I like the fact that you have a practical attitude towards relationships with pinay women.
As far as those on your youtube site: many people, young and old, just hate to see older men with younger women. They think they women overseas are only out to get the guy’s money. This may be true in many instances, but not true in many other instances. What really interests me, though, is the state of men-women relationships in the US and Europe. Many men, especially the ones who criticize on your sites, are men who have problems finding women. Their demeaning comments are an expression of their sexual frustrations back home. They hate to see others in relationships with women because they don’t have any and sexually starved and therefore hateful of anybody who is getting any honey from the hive- especially if those getting the honey are the older bees! Hahha…This is quite true, because I know some these types who express such “moral outrage” over seeing older men with younger women. These people have no more of a core of morality than Pol Pot did. From their smug and demeaning comments they try to find something that can ease the pain of their loneliness and sexual frustration. A relationship between a man and a woman is an intimate and private affair; others should not dare to comment on what they are not a part of!
Yes there is always an economic component but in some cases it is the man that is more into that than the woman. I know a Filipina that totally wants to be with a white guy but does not care one bit about the money. She has a job which puts her in a better position than many but she also has three children. A better life was important to Jessie and most Filipina but sometimes you can find one that just does not care about that. That may not really be a good thing though. Maybe she cares too much about the wrong things. Finances are important and usually is the beginning of a young Filipina and an older man’s relationship. That surely doesn’t mean that’s all there is to it.
I’ve never had a Filipino give me a hard time about Jessie and I being 20 years difference in age. I don’t get that too much from Americans but when I get that it is from an American. Frankly, it amuses me.
What I do get is Filipinos living in the USA calling me a pedophile for filming children playing. Sometimes Jessie did the filming. I really like to take pictures of kids at play. It makes for some great shots. If I go for a walk it is not unusual for the kids to follow me like I’m the pied piper. They don’t do that much in Bogo City any more. They are use to me. If I go some place new, especially rural, that will almost always happen.
I have a 20 plus minute video on Youtube of me walking around Bogo City. Once or twice a week some young punk that lives in the USA and is Filipino calls me a pedophile. Youtube has finally given us the ability to delete post so I just do that now when I get them. I wonder how the people that look at my video can possibly see something sexual in my photographs and films. To me, it takes a sick mind to do that. The people that do that usually have never been to the Philippines, they are just ignorant. They think they are standing up for Filipino pride when really they don’t understand what they are doing is not Filipino like at all. They may be of Filipino decent but they are more American and less Filipino than I. I am very much not Filipino but I’ve worked hard at understanding the culture here. I surely don’t know it all and never will but I’ve learned a lot.
i think its true that relationship have a economic component in a third would country. woman in the west are educated have decent jobs, they just have more apportunities. woman in the west are raised to be strong independent and not rely on a men, woman in a third world country are raised to be subsurvient…..maybe thats another reason why foreigners flock to the philippines…..im commenting because i see guys saying that all this woman want someone to love them, really? im sure they want love but they hold fanacial stability over love. personally i dont know how this girls do it, you older gentleman are not easy on the eyes. i guess it goes to show the human instinct of survival. if she’s happy and your happy knowing why she’s with you then more power to you
Most of the guys here are dreamers while the economy is imploding at home.
Does anyone even think how your wife will find work in a collapsing western economy?
Actually because of the imminent financial collapse the USA is hardly accepting new immigrants.
I know a case where the man is a wealthy 68 years old and the Filippina is 52.
No fiance visa nor the tourist visa would help get into USA.
Not even the local wedding is of any help. After one year of waiting and $17k down the drain he is considering to abandon the whole think.
Think about it!
I’m Hungarian who lives in New York. I’m also married to a Filipina. We are members of the Filipino church here and we are both participating in Filipino events including volunteering. In my experience Filipinos like to blame their colonial past for all their misfortune. Some of them are so anti American that I “loose” it. Since I’m a Hungarian I’m not as naive as the Americans and not let them get away criticizing the USA. This is what I tell them:
I’m from Eastern Europe one of those “behind the Iron Curtain” former communist country. We were colonized by the Soviet Union as oppose to you who were colonized by the USA. We wish we were colonized by the USA. We were also colonized by the Turks for over 300 years (brutal oppressive enslaving muslim country) and I wish we were colonized by Spain instead of the Turks.
That usually shuts them up. I let them know that I’m angry at them and I’m not one of those nice but stupid Kano.
My wife is happy that I’m Hungarian and don’t let them get away with nonsense and also they can not criticize me back.
If they accuse Americans of having sex with miners in the Philippines than I just give them the statistics: There are about 200,000 teen pregnancies each year in the Philippines. That means many Filipino man are breaking the law. Having sex with underage girls is a crime so then how come there are no punishment for them? If few sick Kano do it than it is a major issue but when Filipino men on the wide scale than it is just fine?
What did Estrada said in his famous speech in 1988 about closing the US bases in the Philippines?
“Let this be our finest hour as we face the judgment of history. We have become so dependent on the Americans that we have not learned to be self-sufficient. Our country has been seen as a nation of beggars, a nation of prostitutes, a nation of cheaters, a nation of domestic helpers. And if we do not assert ourselves today, we will also be known as a nation of cowards. This I cannot accept and this, we must not accept.”
Don’t be surprised if you are called a pedophile or worse by Filipino men in the USA. for many here we are still the bad guys.
Wow so many good posts here really like all the different perspectives especially @Nandor and @Demi
I am here to learn. I have Facebook friends in different countries including the Philippines and I plan to buy a freighter to sail the seven seas so I can visit these fascinating islands and the people from time to time. I might even settle down there. i am just coming up to 65 and my £107 per week state pension that will stretch further there especially if I rent some land to grow my own fruit and veg. I am in good health as I am a non smoking, non drinking vegan. I might even get married if I meet the right Filipina. I have never married before but now time is catching up with me. I think I have a good attitude. And I know if I say the slightest thing to annoy my Filipina friends I get it with both barrels. So I am learning. They don’t seem to mind me being an atheist either.
you are very perceptive rusty….i very much enjoyed reading your obsevations.
I must agree with John. I have only been married for a little over a year now and find that Filipino women treat their men like Kings and all they really want is to be loved back and of course secure there is always respect. I find many American women have forgotten how to be women. It also comes down to respect I show my wife respect and she does the same to me. I am an American seaman living in Dasmarinas, Cavite and find that I am a much happier person due to the fact that my ego gets a little boost everytime I come home. I am fascinated by the fact that every time there is something to celebrate we have a family party where friends and relatives will come over and sing and drink and just have lots of fun. My wife smiles all the time. I bought your book about 2 or three months before I moved to the Philippines and it has helped me tremendously. Thank you.